on living dreams into reality
The words above are on one of the little Soul Mantra notes that I tuck into secret spaces at my retreats. I hide them all over the house...under pillows...in the bathrooms...tucked onto windowsills. And whenever I hide this one, I always say a little blessing that as many people as possible will see it.
Because I really want you to believe that you can live even your craziest, wildest dreams into being.
Yes.
At my first Be Present Retreat back in 2009, I had a moment alone sitting on the couch looking out at the sea in Manzanita, Oregon. As I sat there, I realized I felt so at home. It truly felt like I was doing the work I was meant to do. All the clichés about being where you were meant to be came together. And this phrase "I am living my dreams into reality" flashed into my mind. I remember tearing up and trying to push away the feelings because it felt like almost too much to believe.
But it was true.
And here's the part where I tell you two important pieces about the "living my Be Present Retreats dream into reality" story.
1) One of the best pieces of advice I received was: Live as though the dream is already true.
2) I had to cancel three of the first four retreats I'd planned because I didn't have enough people.
The advice came when I was in the "one day I want to own a retreat center or have a loft space where I can hold events but I have no money to do this yet" stage of dreaming. I was sitting at a friend's kitchen table and she'd asked me what my biggest dream was right now. I was working full-time as an editor, in talks about writing a book about poetry and creativity, and I'd just added the Soul Mantra necklaces to my slowly growing Etsy shop full of purses and prayer flags.
I shared that one day I wanted to host retreats that brought together what I'd learned from the sacred community I'd found in my two-year yoga teacher training experience with the creative community I'd found in the art retreats I was attending. I said that I thought I was about five to ten years away from that dream because we didn't have money to buy a place where I could host the retreats.
My dream was deeply connected to a belief that I had to own (or rent) a space to host these retreats I was envisioning.
My friend said, "Why don't you act like you are already living this dream?"
As I thought about her words over the next few days, my way of looking at this dream began to change. I shifted toward the, "Hmmm...that is interesting. I wonder..." phase of dreaming.
But I didn't make any moves for a few months. I started to try on the idea that I could create and host retreats now. I would imagine what it would be like, but I was too afraid to put any ideas onto paper.
Then I had a few really beautiful experiences and conversations with a few friends. Their support pushed me over the edge to move into the action phase.
I started researching locations along the Oregon Coast. I wanted a big house so it could feel a bit like I was inviting people into my home. I found some possibilities. I started brainstorming on paper. I started thinking about names for this new adventure. My blog was called "be present, be here." The name Be Present Retreats was born.
I brainstormed ideas for the first retreat. I came up with the idea of calling it Self-Portrait Excavation: a retreat about self-portraits in photography, poetry, and mixed media. I asked two friends if they wanted to teach with me. And a few weeks later, I put my dream out into the world.
There was a lot of excitement from my blog readers and friends. I felt certain the retreat would fill with excited women ready to sink into the world of self-portraits and community.
During this time the editor I'd been brainstorming book ideas with called me and said, "I think the idea you have for that retreat could be an incredible book."
I loved it. We put together the proposal and it was accepted! Inner Excavation was born.
But only a few people signed up for the retreat.
I was really discouraged and knew I would probably have to cancel. I was determined to try again. I brainstormed in my idea notebook. I talked to a few trusted friends and they listened and gave me advice when I asked for it. I thought about the two teachers I most wanted to learn from and asked them if they would teach. They said yes.
I pushed forward with my second retreat (that really became my first). It sold out in three days.
And a few months later, I found myself sitting on that couch looking out at the water knowing I'd come home. And I consciously tucked that feeling into my heart so I wouldn't forget.
The next two retreats didn't fill.
At times it was confusing and discouraging, but I didn't let myself forget that feeling of home.
So I planned another one and we had just enough people to make it work. I kept building from there. Last week I hosted my fifteenth retreat.
Of course there is a lot more to this story, including figuring out how to actually make money and other bumps and bruises as a business grows. There are dear friends who have supported me and a few who have literally helped make these retreats possible. There are lessons and laughter and moments of wondering. And there have been moments when I wasn't sure if I should keep doing this paired with really beautiful retreats that have brought me back to center where I feel at home again.
Today, this is what I know: If I hadn't spent those months taking time to just pretend the dream was already happening, it would still be in the idea notebook I carry around in my head. Literally trying that dream on for minutes at a time helped me step into a the story of what creating the Be Present Retreats might feel like.
I'm so deeply grateful for that moment when someone shined a light on that dream inside me and let me know I had permission to say, "YES!"
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Reader Comments (7)
this helps me have faith in my dream... thank you <3
I am so grateful that you spent the time dreaming your dreams and making it into reality. Your retreats are life changing and amazing. Thank you for giving hope that dreams do come true! xo
What a beautiful post! I love the truths you reveal here about the bumps in the road as well as the triumphs, particularly that even after the success of the first retreat, the following two weren't what you'd hoped. I think there's an assumption {at least, it's one I know I make!} that once you've 'got it', it'll work every time, or consistently. Reading about your experience gave me a new and much more forgiving perspective. Thank you for being so honest!
I am so grateful for your very first retreat. It holds such a special place in my heart. That home that you invited us into was filled with love, warmth, and tender nurturing. It in that house in Manzanita that I first truly realized I was a writer...and I have you to thank for that. You have gifted so many with your love and open heart. Thank you dear Liz for the work you do. You are deeply loved. xxoxoxo
I've heard nothing but really wonderful things about your retreats. I hope to come to one someday!
Your story gives me faith in my own dreams. Thanks for sharing.
I cried all the way through this post, tears of possibility, my heart swelling with a breathless "YES!" even though I don't yet have a clear vision of what I am reaching for, what my dream is. But for this bit of time I felt a stirring of belief that I can live it.
Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy.... thank you for sharing this journey. After attending your first retreat, I completely shocked myself by having my own retreat. Honestly, I barely knew what a retreat was but I also immediately felt that this was "the thing" that brought all the pieces of me together. My goal was to stay small and local and find those women who would normally not consider such a thing. I went on to have 3 more retreats and loved every minute of it. Until the next 3 didn't happen. Giving up on that last one was one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with (hardly anyone gets this.) I felt so beaten down and totally convinced that I would never do it again. I had always acted with the best of intentions and just didn't understand it at all. I moved on to other things and then something interesting happened. Someone who knew I did retreats wanted her female employees to have one and asked me to put it together. Right now I am on cloud 9 planning a retreat and I do not have to market it! I don't know what the future will hold, but it's been kind of a "back door" way to keep my dream alive. So you never know. You have to just keep moving forward.... thanks for what you do and for sharing this. It gives me hope.