a few little odds and ends
In the comments from my last post, Sky wrote, "letting go of your need to control judgments can sometimes free you in significant ways." Oh my this is huge. Yes. This is it. I keep reading this aloud so it will sink into me. Really sink in. Thank you. The control piece is a big part of my journey. I don't want someone not to like me; I just want them to know I am doing the best I can even if they don't like what I am doing. But I have to own the parts that are about me, and let go of the parts that are about them. I am going to continue to let this one twirl around in my mind and reflect on the issue of control in my life.
This morning, my grandfather fell and broke his hip. Shit. All I can say about this is shit. He has been without my grandmother for a little over a year and has been adjusting to being alone and this happens. And I can only imagine how alone he feels. He fell in the garage. In his neighborhood in South Carolina, most people have a carport so the garage does not have a door. He had his keys in his hand and kept setting off the car alarm panic button; turning it off, then on again, and so on. Some young man he has never met, living three streets over, kept hearing it. He decided to jump in the car and investigate. And he found my dear grandpa in pain on the floor of the garage. Bless his soul from the hair on his head to his toes. Thank you sir, whomever you are. (Gramps has surgery in the morning. Hopefully all will go well and he will be home in a few weeks, self-sufficient again. But life is unpredictable. I take a breath and do what I can from here. And I also admit that somehow this brings up my sadness about missing my grandmother and how she is supposed to be here. Silly...maybe even selfish. But true.)
I was on the phone with a dear friend this morning and my husband motioned me to come outside. In our little sideyard a foxglove is blooming! Last summer, a friend gave me some "extra" plants from her garden. And now a foxglove is blooming. This is amazing. I was just telling Letha that I love foxgloves. Hee, hee. Now I have one. Wondrous.
And I am off to Portland this afternoon for a girls night with some friends. I cannot wait. The blessing of laughter and poetry reading and good food and silliness in the midst of all of it.
Finally, I would like to "borrow" an idea from Michelle. I spill of myself here quite a bit and sometimes wonder, "do these people who stop by have anything they wish they knew about me?" Do questions come to mind as you visit my corner of the world? If so, leave them in the comments and I will answer them when I get back from my quick trip down to Portland. From the serious to the truly silly...I will answer them.
liz lamoreux
Reader Comments (14)
I'm glad your Grandfather is ok. How nice to hear of someone practicing an act of kindness. Very cool! If I had any question to ask you it would be this, "Who are your favorite poets and or writers?" Have a fun time in Portland! :)
Have a fun trip and when you pass Oly, yell hi!
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Question: If I was to have you over for four courses of your very FAVORITE foods and because we were eating together there were no calories or consequences, what would those courses be?
I'm glad that your Grandpa's doing better. And I hope that you had a WONDERFUL time in Portland (I mean it! I'm only a little bit jealous now!!)
LOVE xoxo
glad to hear your grandad is doing better.
my 'up close and personal' question would be to ask you about how you began your relationship with yoga?
sorry to hear about your grandfather
and i hope that everything goes well
with that...
and i have to say
i so suck at these questions
and yet i always wanna put one
but then i reject everything
that comes to mind
and end up with things like
"uh...whats your favorite jello???"
heh.
so.
whats your favorite jello color.
heh.
i suck.
:)
Yes, glad to hear that your granddad is on the mend.
Q. for you: What in your life gives you your greatest sense of peace?
Happy Sunday!
That is a gooooood neighbor. . .
What an 'angel' that young man was. Hope your grandfather is recovering nicely from surgery. Questions? Gee, what would I like to know about Liz?... How about this...if you could spend one day being any previous age, what age would you be and how would you spend your day?
when i finished reading the paragraph about you grandfather i stopped what i was doing and prayed for him, sending him healing love.
i'm glad you're playing the q&a. my question? hmmmmm....
if you could have tea with 5 poets (living or dead) who would they be?
Prayers to your grandfather that he continues to heal and I hope he will be home soon in his own bed and quickly mend.
Question: You have to live one day over from your past. Which will it be and what will you do differently?
p.s. Had such a wonderful time this weekend! you are a dear, wonderful, beautiful soul Liz. Celebrate yourself all weel, all year, all life long- your 30s are going to be amazing. I have a very good feeling about it!
Liz, petal, hope you're grandfather is doing okay - thank goodness that neighbour heard his call... so i guess we're on the countdown to the end of your 20s eh? how exciting! this is going to be your best decade yet.... my question is the same one i posed Michelle: what's your favourite adjective, noun, adverb and verb (and why)?... Sx
Many thoughts for both your grandpa and for you. So hard to be far away from someone you love when they are in pain or in need. Here's to a quick recovery!
My questions:
Because we all love words so much, I feel like we focus a lot on reading and writing. In a different vein, which visual artists (not sure if that's the right word) inspire you the most? Do you prefer abstract art, photography, sculpture, fabric art, etc?
And maybe you've posted about this and I missed it, but how did you meet your husband?
I, too, am glad to hear all is well with your grandfather! Your last post about turning thirty this week inspired my thoughts. You mentioned, "i am ready to own my body, my skin, my truth, the knowledge within me, and i feel like my thirties will bring more of that..." This is so very deep for me with what I'm currently experiencing. I wondered, too, as a reader "who visits your corner of the world" often...do you have any specific adventures, accomplishments, or silly bits of ephemera that you hope to experience before 40 comes along?
I've been out of town for a few days and am trying to catch up so I'm assuming your grandfather has already had surgery by now, but I just wanted to say I'm sending good thoughts his way for a full recovery.
And for a question....hhhmmm...ok, here's one: If you could travel to any time in the past - your own past, the recent past, or the ancient past...any time at all! - and spend one day there just as observer - no one could see you or interact with you, but you could see and hear everything going on around you, when and where would you go? What would you want to see?